300 Words on Feminism

I want to write about feminism.

I want to write about how much the word 'feminism' means to me.

But I can't find where to start. I can't find the right place to hook people into whatever points I have to make because I find it impossible to think that a person couldn't be a feminist.

I suppose I could start with the whole 'feminist vs. equalist' argument.

I could start with the fact that I've had other women tell me that men don't want a strong woman, they want someone they can take care of and protect.

I could start with the fact that its 2015 and there is still a wage gap between the sexes.

I could start with the fact that men feel that they can't tell others when they've been sexually assaulted because it'll decrease their masculinity.

I could start with the sad fact that patriarchal views make men think their masculinity is so important that they value it more than their mental health.

I could start by saying how my mother's view on women makes her tell me that losing weight and wearing proper makeup and clothes will make people like me more.

But I just can't decide.

Feminism is so important. Feminism wants women to have the right to choose what they do with their own bodies. Feminism wants men to be able to wear skirts in public without ridicule. Feminism wants people, no matter what color, gender, age, or what have you, to be treated as people. Without judgment. Without ridicule. Feminism is the reason that I’ve learned to love myself. Feminism isn’t about just women anymore. Feminism is a movement for all and Feminism is a movement that should be fought for until there is nothing left to fight for.

 

 

 

How to Be Fat on a Daily Bases

1 Love Yourself

I want you to look in the mirror, throw your arms around yourself and shower the person you see in the glass with compliments and affection. “You’re beautiful!” “Your laugh is the loveliest sound I’ve heard in my life!” “I love you. I love you. I love you!” Before you focus any loving attention on anything else, focus on you. You are the most important person in your life and in the words of the great RuPaul, If you don’t love yourself how the hell you gonna love anybody else?

 

2 Take Care of Yourself

Rub Lotion on your skin. Eat that extra bit of something sweet. Sleep in a few minutes. Do your makeup extra special with that one lipstick that you really like. Pat your belly when you’re full because that means you’re healthy. See a doctor when you’re sick even though you know that they’ll blame what’s wrong with you on your weight. Take a few mental health days. Lie in the sun. Remember, you’re the most important person to you.

3 Flaunt it

People are looking at you because you’re gorgeous. You step into a room and their eyes are focused on you. Be the star, do your strut, act like the goddess you know you are. Confidence is key. Even if your hair is a wreck and you’re wearing sweat pants with stains, rock it. Constantly have the mindset that your hair is blowing in the wind and your favorite song is playing in your head.

 

4 Don’t Get Too Annoyed When People Whine About Being Fat

We’ve all been there. Skinny girl’s favorite thing to do is eat a fry and say they’re fat. Not only is it a little insulting, it’s a lie… But we can’t really blame them. In today’s society, girls are taught to hate their bodies. That girl hasn’t learned to love herself as much as you have and perhaps one day you can drop them a line and educate them on how hot they are, even if they are fat.

 

5 You Aren’t Taking Up Any More Space Than Anyone Else

I’ll admit that I even have a hard time following this step (mild crowd phobia thing going on). But it’s true. Everyone has their personal space and everyone deserves to have that space respected. Never get out of the way of someone walking in your direction, take up as much space as you need on a train and if someone makes you uncomfortable, let them know.

I’ve been a plump goddess my whole life. From the cradle to the grave I’ll have cellulite, rolls and curves for days. Some would say that isn’t a positive thing. I say fuck that. Eating is good, loving yourself is better and confidence is key. Follow the 5 steps listed above and I promise that you’ll love more freely, feel better in your skin and really not care about what people think.